Are you Judgy?

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Day 13-15

I’ll admit that I have a tendency to judge others. In this political climate I have found that some friends and acquaintances and I don’t see eye to eye on a lot of issues. And now with all of us posting our stances and feelings on social media (and I don’t have a problem with that because I do it on a regular basis) I am confronted with differing opinions from my own on a daily basis. Deepak says “When you judge another human, you are denying that we are the same.” He explains a practice of visualizing the person you are judging with a parental attitude. Loose the grip on our grudges and find compassion. He goes on to say that empathy links you to everyone on earth. Well, that was just mind blowing to me. Of course it does! My favorite quote of Deepak’s from this session was “Step down from the judge’s chair”. Yes, Mona, step down. And stay down and post it this all over your house so you remember!

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Next I made a list of people who I have judged or continue to judge and found things we both value or something I value and respect about them. Without listing names of course, I came up with the following;

Friend/Acquaintance #1 – She is extremely giving with her time and her kids.
Friend/Acquaintance #2 – She is a good mother.
Friend/Acquaintance #3 – We both want the best for our kids. We both are book lovers.

When you start looking at others this way it’s much easier to “step down from the judges chair” and stop the internal battle of “I’m right.” Which I do struggle with. I’ve found this little exercise can help me get through and not necessarily cut these people out of my life just because I disagree with something they did/said or believe. This is NOT the same as me removing toxic people from my life! (see previous post) That is different and necessary!

Have you found yourself judging others? Take some time this week to try the visualization I described above. Let me know how it goes in the comments! Thanks for being here!

Feeling Alive!

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Day 2

Day two Deepak tells us that desire is natural and creative act. Fulfilling your desires is to fulfill your intensions. He says something here that struck me. Deepak says to “plan your life around desire.” That sounded a tad bit selfish to me at first, but when you think about it, it’s not. Life would be so much less interesting without any desires! Deepak explains that the highest desire is to grow and evolve. I like to think I live in a “growth mindset” or as Gretchen Rubin says “live in an atmosphere of growth.” When we think about desire this way, it makes more sense to want to plan your life around your desires.

If I didn’t have the desire to heal and recover from my back and neck issues, I would have never met such an incredible group of women. And I never would have had that positive support system to help carry me along. If I didn’t have interests or passions I never would have returned to my book club after missing out for so long. My love of books and the desire to see my old friends opened me up to books I wouldn’t have chosen on my own.

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All of these small desires just make life better. If nothing else, the last two or three years has taught me that going after and pursing those desires are incredibly important. All the actions I took made huge, sweeping changes in my life that made me significantly happier, calmer and healthier. Without desire, where would I have been?

This week ask yourself what your life would look like without desires, interests or passions! I think we all know how that would make us feel, but it’s a good exercise to go through to remind us what makes us feel alive!

Thank for being here!