There’s a lot of information out there about goal setting. I never paid any attention to goal setting until recently. As I have said before, I wasn’t someone who set any goals for myself. Ever. I liked challenges, and by nature I’m a doer and organized, but true, structured, short and long term goals? Never happened. Until now! Having goals propels us forward into growth. Without them life just happens to us. We are adrift.
In The 10 Keys to Happier Living, the author suggests crafting goals with the five “how-to’s” below.
1 Be Specific – Identify the what, where, when, how, how much or how many.
2 Know Your Why – Have a clear reason.
3 “Will Do” not “Won’t Do” – Frame goals as what I will do. Not what I won’t do.
4 Growth Goals (Not Being Seen as Good) – Goals should about doing better. Not
being the best.
5 Write Down and Share – Write them down and share your progress.
I was currently using two of these how-to’s correctly. That was number two and four. I for sure knew my why. It’s the entire reason I started this wellness journey in the first place! To be pain free! For number 4, I never had the interest in being “the best” at something when setting my goals. Even now, I don’t strive for that. I have goals for my yoga practice, but I’m not there to be the best in my class. I just want to progress in my poses and increase my mindfulness while doing so.
I did change my goals to include more specifics. For example, instead of “read more” my reading goal for this year is to read 100 books. And I then broke that down to reading a minimum of 50 pages a day, in the morning. This checked the box of “what, when and how much”. It definitely keeps me on track.
Three was interesting because I did have a goal of eating meals not snacks. And that’s exactly how I worded it. A better goal would be “Eat three complete, healthy meals a day”, because when I do that I don’t snack or if I do it’s minimal. Good tip!
I was writing down my goals but not sharing them until I discovered Gretchen Rubin’s podcast and they began their 18 for 2018, 19 for 2019 “goals” list. Then I began sharing everything in the Happier in Hollywood facebook group (Gretchen’s sister’s podcast). It’s great getting the feedback and I have a ton accountability partners. Also, when we share our goals they become REAL. I remember the first time I told anyone I was writing a book. The only person who knew was me! But here I was I meeting someone for the first time and it just popped out of my mouth. I figured if I just start saying it, it will propel me forward to complete it. I became a writer at that moment. A writer who is writing their first book. And since then I’ve told a ton of people. Because you never know where a conversation will lead or what the universe has in store for you!
Are you someone who sets goals? How do you go about setting them? Try the steps above to help you get clarity on what you want your goals to be. I’d love to hear about how if goes in the comments! Thank you for being here!