Did you know if you are living in the present moment there can be no anxiety? How about that?! If you are dwelling on the past or projecting into the future and it’s making you stressed, focus on being right where you are in the present moment. You can read more about the science behind this here. https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/compassion-matters/201807/5-truths-about-anxiety-help-you-stay-present Once I had this awareness, it helped my stress levels tremendously.
For years I spent so much time worrying. Mostly about my kids, but somehow over the years, my anxiety levels grew into fears that weren’t there before like flying or going to the doctor. It’s like I was so hyper aware of everything I needed to do as mom to keep my kids safe, it bled over into everything I did for myself. Suddenly afraid of so many things I wasn’t before. I spent A LOT of time worrying about the “what if’s” with my kids. What if my son didn’t get selected for the team he wanted to play on, what if my daughter’s audition didn’t go well, what if a stranger approaches them, what if they get hurt, what if they get sick, what if, what if, what if… It’s enough to drive a mother mad. We all do it. I mean, we love our kids and are going to protect them. Period. But living in the fight or flight mode all the time will destroy your health. I simply could not continue that way. I think by the time I got to my own health problems I was at such a high stress level and then getting a lot of “I don’t know what’s wrong with you” from doctor’s, it just made me project more into the future. I can see that now.
Dwelling on the past is just as destructive. Reliving old hurts does not help anyone. Do you know that your mind doesn’t know the difference of whether you are actually experiencing these moments or are just replaying them in your mind? The result is stress either way. Deepak says “I restore inner balance when I live in the now”. Yes, so true. And to do this it’s as easy as a one minute breathing meditation. There are guided meditations out there to use when you are actually experiencing a stressful moment and you need to bring yourself back to the present. I list some helpful apps below.
It’s a mindset I can see now, looking back, that was affecting my health in many ways, slowly over time. I’m happy to be out of that place! I’m not saying I don’t have fears now, but if I do, I have ways to work through them now without just getting upset or working myself up into a frenzy.
Do you find yourself living in the past or future? Is it causing unneeded stress and worry? Try the following:
Download a meditation app. I like Insight Timer, but there are many (Calm, Headspace) and use a guided meditation to bring you back to the present moment. Choosing just a one minute breathing awareness meditation can be so helpful. You can always choose a longer one if you like.
Make this a practice you use in your life and you will find yourself to be in a much calmer state of mind.
I would love to hear how it goes! Please comment below! Thanks for being here!